A soulmate

This generation is making it so hard to find someone to actually build with.
Soulmate means the highest level of friendship. The interesting thing is that we want a soulmate like, who support us where we are week. But the deficiencies that are in us should not be in them. Actually we want them according to our convenience. We can not say it’s a soulmate.

Soulmate is who understands us, how we feel, he /she does not have to say this without saying what he/she understands he is a soulmate.
A very beautiful feeling.

I think any person in your life who has become the inspiration of any change in you, he/she is your soulmate.

It’s not at all that, emotional challenges do not come in your relationship, but in spite of the ups and down of life and in spite of innumerable shortcomings with which your soul is connected  it is your soulmate in the right way.

Nowdays people say that they are not able to maintain the relationship, but they do not understand that in order to maintain the relationship, first they have to build like that.

Every relationship will get boaring after you have been together for years. Love isn’t a feeling it’s commitment to love everyday physically and emotionally.  it’s difficult, it’s not always laugh, smiles and fun. people tend to quit when it stops being fun, and they go look for someone else, because the spark is gone. No, that’s not how it works. you want somebody to never give up on you, and love you unconditionally. then do the same. Be the change. this isn’t the movie. Love someone when you don’t want to. when they aren’t the easiest to deal with. when they are hard to love, its called a “Real Soulmate.”

Happiness in relationships

Many people associate happiness with money and many people associate it with relationships. They do not understand that they will not feel happy in their relationships as long as they are not happy themselves. Relationship problems are increasing rapidly and the main reason behind this is that we expect too much from the other person. We hope that they make us feel happy. We lie in our minds like, ‘If our partner buys us a dress, we will be happy’ or ‘If our partner is planning a surprise for us, then we will be happy’. This problem is not only with the couple but it is with each relationship whether it is a parental relationship or a sibling relationship or friendship.

Here are some facts below that can help you be happy:


Take care of yourself
Take care of yourself. Do not prioritize the other person over yourself and do not let him do the same. If you give too much priority to someone and you get nothing in return then you are preparing a recipe for your disappointment.

Get started
If you want to go somewhere, plan it yourself. Do not wait for your partner, parent or child to take you there. Let them know that they will like you if they come together. However there is no need to be disappointed if they refuse. Keep your plan going.


Give personal time
You need to give time to your partner and give your personal time to maintain a healthy relationship.

The conclusion
We set unrealistic expectations from other people in our lives and believe that if they truly love us, they will express it in the same way. This is almost certainly false. It only hurts relationships rather than doing any good. We need to understand that the only person who can make you feel really happy is yourself.

My non-biological sibling


Year 2017, Pune.

I was about to go out of some important work, then Kiran (my flatmate) gave a voice saying, hey lakshmi, ‘I have a friend who has a very good friend coming to Pune and needs a place to stay’, can I call her to stay at our flat? I said ‘yes of course, no problem’, and I went out in a hurry.

When I came back I saw a small height,  chubby girl sitting on the bed, Giving me the introduction, Kiran said, ‘this is the girl I told you about’, And then she extended her hand and said, ‘Hi My name is Geetanjali’. I too moved my hand and said, your name is very beautiful, and she smiled.

We had our first meeting just like this, and then, this chubby girl with a small height became a geet for me from Gitanjali, and I became Lakshu for her from Lakshmi. From since then, we have shared passwords, shared food, shared laughter, shared tears, shared memories, shared dreams, shared heartbreaks and screen shot. There was nothing left that we did not share. So basically she is not just my best friend, she is my non biological sister. If I have earned anything in the last few years, then she is this girl. I am 26 years old, this is the most precious thing in my life that I have earned, And  I never want to lose it.

By the way, every time, I have shown her how important she is to me. And she also knows this very well. So the thing is that now that day has also come, for which I was very happy, but even more sad to lose, that is my bestie’s wedding.

If seen in the same way, Indirectly this meant that, the right that I had on her would be taken away from me. Or you can also say that the part that came in my life, I also have to give that part to someone else. It was not that I did not lose anything before, but if I lose her too, then I will have nothing left. But it was decided. And the thing was about my bestie’s happiness, I too was happily prepared.

On the one hand I was very happy that my bestie has found a partner with whom she will move forward in her life and be happy And from the other side also sad that now our relationship will probably not be the same.

But Now I had to explain to myself that these are all right, because I too had left her in a city where we have a lot of memories.

Now the problem is that I had come home, And I have a phone anxiety, so I cannot talk more, though both of us did not need it because we can talk a lot  in silence. But she also understood my weakness that I could not talk, so perhaps I never had to say anything to her. She never judged me like other friends, why I do not call, or why she always has to call.

This girl has always faced every good, bad thing in me. And maybe these are the little things that keep us together.

25 Jan 2021.

Today is your engagement, such a big day of your life and I am very sad that I am not with you.This is probably the first time that I am not with you.
But frankly, no one can be more happy for you than me.

I know you understand my feelings,
But I feel very bad, and because I cannot speak, I had no option but to write to say sorry.

I wish that you always be happy, because the happiness of many people is associated with your happiness. Take my share of happiness if you need it, but always be happy.

I m really sorry geet And a big Congratulations.

Do you believe in magic?

Do you believe in magic or miracle?
Hearing these questions, some people will say yes and some people will say no. I think the people whose life is going according to them, they will say yes, and those who are unhappy, they will say No.

When you find yourself in a hopeless situation, remember that  Someone is always around you with a positive energy, that is magic. Just you need to be confident. Because you are the magic creator, you are the magician.There is a need to keep Believe on yourself. Just because things have not worked out exactly how you planned does not mean that nothing good can happen in your life.You cannot blame it on luck, maybe something good will happen. No matter what your situation is saying to you, God has not left you. Tell yourself this until you believe it.

It has been my personal experience that my biggest blessings come after the darkest storms. I know that when I am going through a rough time, I cannot lose hope. Because I knew nothing could go wrong with me, yes some things did not go according to me, but it does not mean that my happiness is not available to me.

I believe myself that there is magic, I believe that there are miracles.And I also believe that there is also a magic creator. I believe myself. We just need to look into ourselves. Whenever we are disappointed, we blame on luck, people, or circumstances. But have you ever tried to pay attention to your surroundings. Have you ever tried to feel positive energy around you? If not, then I think you should try this once. You will have faith in both your magic and your inner spirit.

We are all the creators/magicians of our life and we can also create magic in our life. There is a need to just trust yourself. Because magic can happen anytime in life.

Time Is The Greatest Healer, But….!

Time is the greatest healer. This is a popular saying, but I believe that this is not completely correct. Time will do nothing for you if you do not use time properly.Time fills your wounds but, it is not the main motivation to move forward. After getting hurt, you have to try yourself to move forward in life.

It is not right to say that everything will be alright with time. Because time does not work with us, we move with time.When you leave the responsibility of your happiness and wounds on time, then you lose a lot. Because the purpose of time is not to give happiness or erase pain, memories or people. Rather, the purpose of time is to learn new people, new opportunities, and new experiences.Time and emotions should be controlled but they should not be stopped for long.

If you are doing everything to handle yourself but still not able to understand even after doing all this, whether you are going right with time or not. Then  notice that you are spending your day with regular routine or just trying to show that everything is fine.

I Learned that we should not get bored with regular routine. Regular routine means that everything is going well in our life. That’s why try that you should spend all your time in the way you like to spend. So that everything goes right in your life.

Look, Time heals nothing. Its what you do with that time that means everything.Try to control your time, believe it, by doing this, you will save yourself from unnecessary pain in future.

Nothing But the Truth..

There are two aspects of the truth, one that we want to see and one that we do not want to accept, but in reality that is the truth.

Throughout the life, we run from the reality, and by showing that artificial truth, we try to make ourselves appear true. And that is probably the biggest mistake in your life.Because by doing this you can only claim to be happy, or pretend to be happy but you cannot be happy.

We all have only one life, in that too you will spend worrying about others or thinking about others, then when will you live for yourself.

The biggest truth is that you are stopping your growth yourself. Then, whether it is about life or about relationships, you are unknowingly becoming your own enemy.The sooner you accept the truth, the sooner you will be able to move forward in life.And the longer you run from the truth, the longer it will take you to move forward in life.

Yes, I believe sometimes it is not so easy to accept reality and move on.
And see nothing is easy. Our heart is like the river water, which should always flow.And if it is stuck in someone, then it becomes difficult to get rid of it. But not impossible, because nothing is impossible.

Nothing but the truth is, Life is too short,  so love the people who treat you right, forget about the one who don’t, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.

Perspectives

Perspectives is a very big thing. Everyone’s thinking, seeing, understanding perspective is different. If the same thing is seen or thought in many ways, then many questions and answers can be found.And many complaints and misunderstandings can be overcome.

Whatever the person thinks, the world looks the same.Some people always dream of moving forward looking at problems and some people see opportunity everywhere.Things appear according to your thinking and it happens the same…

Perspective makes a huge difference on our success.If the outlook is negative, then you will still be troubled despite everything you have. Remember, it is many times easier than trying unsuccessfully to change everyone in the world, change yourself ..

Make a habit of finding happiness .. Try to find opportunities in troubles… because sitting by holding your head will not achieve anything ..

We can be sad even after getting everything or we can be happy even if we do not get anything. This is the perspective of looking at our lives.

Look, the perspective is always as limited as we think. So try to expand your thinking, if you can expand your knowledge, then somewhere else, the perspective of our life will also get bigger.


In every situation, there are two aspects of the situation, there are two views. One is negative and the other is positive. When we look at things from a negative perspective, we simply remain upset, depressed, remain unhappy, can harm ourselves or others, spoil our relationships with others and do not attempt to get out of that situation.

Whereas on seeing things by being positive one,finds the reason for every trouble.From every problem, difficulties and troubles find a way out.

Therefore it is better to be upset by being negative, to be unhappy, to be happy by being positive and try to get out of those situations, from difficulties, from troubles.

Things remain the same, we can change our circumstances with our perspective.





Thank you note to my Roomies.

Yes I know I could say thank you myself, but maybe by writing I will be able to share my feelings better.

I do not know whether I am good or my roomies/friend, but the relationship we have is the best.

Thank you so much for making me be an important part of your life.
I am very sad to get away from you, but I have so many memories that will make me happy forever.

Thank you for always encouraging me and supporting me from little to big life decisions.

Thank you for making food for me when I’m hungry whether its 12.00 PM or 12.00 AM.

Thank you for tolerating to me when I am totally being annoying.

Those birthday surpises of you, which I can never forget. Thanks for that too.

How can I forget, when I fell ill, you all kept awake throughout the night and looked after me.

If I want to say, I have a list of things for which I have to say thanks. But I do not want to repay the debt by saying thanks. I want this loan for a lifetime, which I never want to repay.

I always thought making lifelong friends was not that easy when you’re old, but here you guyes are comes, proving me wrong. You guys have become my family, not just my best friends.

I know that soon we will all get away from each other, everyone’s paths will be different, we will go far in life but
But the place in my heart for you can never change.