Happiness in relationships

Many people associate happiness with money and many people associate it with relationships. They do not understand that they will not feel happy in their relationships as long as they are not happy themselves. Relationship problems are increasing rapidly and the main reason behind this is that we expect too much from the other person. We hope that they make us feel happy. We lie in our minds like, ‘If our partner buys us a dress, we will be happy’ or ‘If our partner is planning a surprise for us, then we will be happy’. This problem is not only with the couple but it is with each relationship whether it is a parental relationship or a sibling relationship or friendship.

Here are some facts below that can help you be happy:


Take care of yourself
Take care of yourself. Do not prioritize the other person over yourself and do not let him do the same. If you give too much priority to someone and you get nothing in return then you are preparing a recipe for your disappointment.

Get started
If you want to go somewhere, plan it yourself. Do not wait for your partner, parent or child to take you there. Let them know that they will like you if they come together. However there is no need to be disappointed if they refuse. Keep your plan going.


Give personal time
You need to give time to your partner and give your personal time to maintain a healthy relationship.

The conclusion
We set unrealistic expectations from other people in our lives and believe that if they truly love us, they will express it in the same way. This is almost certainly false. It only hurts relationships rather than doing any good. We need to understand that the only person who can make you feel really happy is yourself.

सुखं म्हणजे नक्की काय असतं.

कुणाला दुखं देऊन मिळवलेला आनंद कधीच सुख देऊ शकत नाही.

पण कुणाला आनंद मिऴावा, म्हणुन स्विकारलेल दुखं नेहमी सुखं देऊन जातं. – एक अनुभव

“Let yourself feel everything you need to feel.”

In the society we live in, we are taught from childhood that which emotions are to be felt and which are not. Like, we should not cry, we should not get angry.

Unfortunately,  The more we try to run away from this emotions, the more we feel it.Try as much as you want, you cannot run away from these emotions. it follows us everywhere. Difficult emotions, like  anger, loneliness, fear,  confusion, are a natural part of the human experience. It’s just not possible to avoid feeling bad.

According to the society, we should not cry because it makes us look weak. And it is not good for us. But I feel like,
The issues come when we judge our emotions or refuse to feel them.
I truly believe that there is a place for every emotion and that it is totally ok to feel them.

It seems to me that this is a very important thing to remember in order to enjoy life. Far too often we try to hide and bottle up the things we feel because we are either scared of what others will think, or we think we shouldn’t be feeling that way. We think that our emotions are “wrong” in some strange way that doesn’t really make sense when you ask why. We need to feel these so-called “negative” emotions, they help us grow. By letting ourselves experience them we can learn.

Remember, “Always be true to your feelings because the more you deny what you feel, the stronger it becomes.”